people are waiting

In my last posting I spoke of the receptivity of people to the message of Jesus and our efforts to be of influence. In this venture, the word “self-differentiation” comes to mind. This is the ability to work objectively in an arena where you have personal and emotional attachment. Coaching your own children in Little League or having your own children in class as a teacher comes to mind. Self-differentiation also takes place when witnessing for Jesus with your friends. An invitation is what we are talking about, not a persuasive debate. When reaching out to someone close to you, one has to be careful of undo disappointment.

The receptivity of your friend is their problem, not yours. The work of the Holy Spirit drawing them to faith is God’s problem not yours. You are responsible for the invitation. God is responsible for the results. There is one other area you are responsible for, as well.

Instead of being discouraged and depressed over the fact that people you care for deeply are not responding to the gospel, there are many people who are just waiting for an invitation to seek more. I find it fascinating that Christians will feel so much pain and discouragement over loved ones and friends who don’t trust in Jesus or who have drifted from living out their faith, and then will do nothing to reach out to those who don’t trust in Jesus but who are totally receptive to discover saving faith. They just don’t know any Christians.

When you trust in Jesus are your Lord you are entering the arena of maturity. You have to be differentiated enough to know it is not your desires that are most important, but God’s desires. And God desires that you focus your attention on those who are receptive, not just those you are attached to.